To the boy who called me bird nose: I forgive you
High School. What a time in life. I graduated in 2011 from Medway High School in Arva, Ontario. I liked high school I had (and have) great girlfriends, I did well in school, I was involved in lots of extra curricular activities. Life was pretty good in high school for me.
I remember walking down the hallway on my way to lunch in grade nine when I saw a bunch of boys standing around. They were in grade nine too but seemed so much cooler and taller than me (at that time I was kind of short). As I walked past them, this one guy leaned to his friend and said “That’s the girl with the bird nose”, and then they both look straight at me. I kept my head high, pretending I didn’t hear and kept walking. But inside I was dying.
BIRD NOSE! Really? I have a bird nose?
I never heard anyone ever say that to me again but thats all it took… I thought for the longest time that I would get nose surgery when I was older to fix my nose. If only I was born with a cute button nose. I was always conscious of my nose, no one would ever know that but in pictures, where I sat at lunch, I would always be thinking about my nose and how it looked to others.
I remember on one occasion I found out a guy liked me in high school and I was shocked because he would like someone with a bird nose!
It wasn’t until I graduated from high school that I really started getting over that one statement. That I really started understanding that my nose was just apart of who I am, it was an aspect of me that made me me, unique, wonderful, one-of-a-kind.
And thats when I decided that I needed to forgive him. Forgive him? Yes. I went 4 years (and even now occasionally) where I was completed self-conscious about my nose because of one comment 8 years ago! He doesn’t know that I have forgiven him and he probably never will but this, this is for me. This is for me to recognize where I was hurt and to move past it.
Who in your life do you need to forgive?
Can you be brave enough to forgive them?
Yes, yes you can. You have it in you. But it’s up to you to harness that strength.
Write a letter today, wether you give it to the person or not is up to you, but write it for yourself. This is for you. Sometimes we need people to know that we have forgiven them, thats apart of healing. But sometimes you just need to know you’ve forgiven them. I think it takes just as more energy for you to stay angry, disappointed or hurt from someone as it does for you to forgive them.